Nikki Van Ekeren
Choosing Yourself and the Imposter Syndrome
As I often do, I started my day with the words of an author that I look up to. Today, it was Seth Godin. His podcast, Akimbo, never fails to get my mind thinking in new ways. Godin has a way of helping one stop feeling sorry for themself and start getting out there.
His most recent podcast was entitled “The Great Pretender.”He discusses the topic of the “imposter syndrome” and choosing yourself. Godin was challenging his listeners to lean into the imposter syndrome and ride it out. Technically, we are all imposters when we are forging ahead into new territory. And, isn’t this what we are all striving for?
These topics hit close to home. I love writing about empowering oneself and strive to continually do so in my own life. When I fall short and have a hard time, I feel guilty of imposter syndrome or fearful that one will call me out on being a fraud.
My gut instinct has been to keep on going, to keep writing and to keep sharing even when I feel the discomforts of putting myself out there. I am feeling this way, perhaps others are. Maybe one person will feel better from my words. (Ha, even if that one person is me.)
Can we continue to try to be our best selves while falling short?
Can we proclaim that we are a work in progress and be okay with that?
Can we persist when we feel judged?
Can we stop believing that our work will be discovered by someone and discover ourself?
This last question relates to the topic of choosing yourself. It means feeling value and worth…just because. It means your voice is heard because you hear it. And yes, it literally means picking yourself and your title.
In conclusion, here’s a poem on the subject:
for some reason,
i have always thought
that one day
someone would discover
and splash my name
across the mass media.
it is as if i am putting in my time,
for that one moment.
will choose me.
all will be okay.
i will be a success.
it is time to rethink
i am the only one
who can choose me.
i am the sole human
who can make my art
and then share my creations with the world.
as an artist,
this is in fact
i get to work hard
to share what i have learned and created
and hope that
it may help someone else.
time is not running out,
it is actually keeping me afloat.
when i choose myself,
i embody gratitude.
i can unlock my purpose
which then sets my mind free.
marketing my message
is not as challenging
because i do not attach it
to my ego or identity.
is tethered to the notion of generosity
and this intention
invites me to thrive.